LEARN TO SAY NO - AT THE FIRST GO

Humans, the most confused species in the entire universe.
I write this for a reason.
Have you seen an animal, first chasing you, then stopping and thinking whether he shall chase you not and then the next moment starts chasing again?

It is not that they do not have the intelligence, it is just that they know when and where to use it.
On the other hand, we the humans, having a tremendous amount of intelligence which is almost unmeasurable, still, we waste it on mere overthinking and confusions.

Have you ever thought when the situation of confusion starts and when you are successful in doing things in one go?

No, because you were you busy in solving the issues which were caused due to your confusion.

So, here is the solution.
'It all starts from the moment when you say YES for the things which deep inside you do not want to do or be a part of, but still being humans you have so much of care and emotions that you do not want to hurt the one standing in front of you by saying a simple NO.

When you say YES for a NO, you start finding ways to get rid of it or start convincing yourself to be the part of YES. But one thing is common in both, i.e both of the activity is a time taking process, which is not worth it.

All this can be avoided once and for all, just by saying a clear and crisp NO.
Why are you afraid of saying a NO, right at that moment?

Here are a few instances in which you wanted to say NO but you said YES to please others.

1. Your best friend asks you for a drink - you are not in a mood but still say a YES, just because you think he might feel bad listening a NO from the best friend for a beer.
2. Your partner wanted a late night conversation - you wanted to say NO because the next morning you had some important meeting to attend, but you said YES because you thought saying a NO might hurt your partner. 
3. Your boss asks you for a attend an official party -  you wanted to say NO but you ended up saying YES because you didn't want to be a kind of employee who rejects the order of BOSS.
4. Your parents wanted you to get married to a girl/boy - you wanted to say NO because she/he was not of your choice but you ended up saying YES because you thought saying a NO would hurt your parents.

In all of the above cases, it was you who decide whether saying a YES or NO would make the other one happy or sad. Why are you doing such hard work by first asking the questions, then answering it and then analyzing it too? Let them decide, whether they want to be angry, sad, happy with your decisions.

If they understand you, its GREAT. If they don't, give them a good enough reason to understand you. Still, if they don't, then you better understand that convincing them is not worthy of your time.

Learn to say NO to be an effective person in life, or you will forever in your life end up pleasing everyone and no one because you cannot please everyone.

The moment you learn to say NO, you end up creating a path for yourself on which you can walk freely without the need to please each and everyone in your life. Doing this, you will get choices in life, whom to please and whom not to.

THIS POST INSPIRED BY A BOLLYWOOD MOVIE-

LIFE MAY TEACH YOU ANYTIME ANYWHERE ANYWAY.

GOOD LUCK. 
CHEERS.
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